Society is confused with what safe sex really is. Sex is a subject Apostolics tend to think about more than discuss. I teach a class in my marriage seminar entitled “Fun.” It deals explicitly with the topic of sex in marriage. Interestingly enough, it is the most favorite session taught. I get more positive feedback on this subject then I do any other, which is saying something since the rest is incredible.
For years I have heard money is the number one conflict in marriage. I have noticed though that I deal with more sexual issues in marriage. Way more. There is an abundance of classes offered to Apostolics focusing on finance. There doesn’t seem to be many classes offered dealing with the sexual aspect of marriage. If any.
For millennia society has worshipped sex. They made sex a god. We can see the destruction of this sexual idolatry in every generation. Worshipping sex is not safe.
In response to this sexual idolatry, the church, in general, ran to the other side of the pendulum and responded by considering the subject of sex taboo. Sex is dirty and only to have babies. This attitude resulted in confusion and frustration for many couples, causing their questions to go unanswered. Or, couples would turn to society for their answers. Neither option is healthy.
The safe attitude towards sex is to see it as a gift from God. God created the sexual experience from the beginning and presented it to the first couple and every married couple since. Sex can be enjoyed by each couple when they recognize it for what it is — a gift from God.
Sex is safe when practiced by one husband (male) who is married to one wife (female). When each honors the other with safe sex, the benefits are numerous. They include edification; communication; procreation; and, recreation, to name a few.
I have found many being confused about the sexual relationship of a Christian couple. This is true regardless of how long they have been married or whether they are new converts or seasoned saints.
The Song of Solomon has much to say on the subject. I suggest reading the book in a variety of translations. A study of the book is a real eye-opener.
A book I recommend on the subject is: “Sheet Music” by Dr. Kevin Leman. If you would like me to come and teach on marriage at your church, let me know.
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